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When a man offers a hug or even a hugging meditation, some women will feel uncomfortable. He must be so needy! is a common reaction. Others feel they are being asked to give something, although the question was: Would you like to receive?
In a good hug, both are receiving, there is no giving and no ego involved because the connection is through the heart.
I feel that there is still a lot of forgiveness to be done to heal the old wounds of patriarchy! What I have learnt about the new healthy masculine is that we can provide a safe space for the feminine to open up.
The first step is clear communication:
- I’m not a healer and don’t offer healing.
- I’m not in search for healing, just for opening.
- I’m no more special than you are.
When I talk about hugs and hugging meditations, I prefer not to offer them directly to a woman. Rather, I give the vision of possibilities and let the woman decide if she wants to ask for it.